Acts of kindness

, 55–56

Adelaide Botanic Gardens

, 55

Advance care

, 2–3, 62, 79

directives

, 63

plan

, 61–62

Advance statement

, 62–63

Affective and intimate lives

, 11

civil union, civil partnership

, 32–33

couple relationship

, 15–18

estrangement

, 21–24

formerly married or civil partnered

, 34

household and family

, 12–15

participants family of origin

, 19–21

participants’ current family

, 24–28

participants’ family settings

, 19–28

participants’ relationship history and status

, 28–34

Afterlife beliefs

, 87–88, 93–94

afterlife as possibility

, 105

living on in lives of others

, 105

participants’ afterlife beliefs

, 102–105

Age and authority

, 81–83

AIDS epidemic

, 130

Alternative family

, 14

Alternative insemination

, 14

Altruism

, 75–76

Art Gallery of South Australia, The

, 55

Ashes

, 122

Assisted dying

, 88, 91–92

Assisted suicide

, 88–89

Australian Capital Territory (ACT)

, 5, 20–21, 43–44, 95–96, 116

Baby Boomer generation

, 67–68

Benefactions

, 56

Beneficence

, 55–56

Beneficiaries

, 52–57

charities

, 54–55

children, grandchildren, godchildren

, 57

friends

, 56–57

nieces, nephews

, 54

partner

, 53

siblings

, 55–56

Blended family

, 13–14, 20–21

Blended-family-life

, 19–20

Bone Crusher

, 120, 123–124

Buddhism

, 87, 93

Burial

, 120–122

California Department of Justice

, 62

Canadian health system

, 100–101

Catholic education systems

, 119

Catholic school system

, 119–120

Catholic upbringing

, 119

Charities

, 54–56

Children

, 57

Chinese-Australian gay men

, 3–4

Choice of executor

family member

, 47–52

friend

, 47–52

partner

, 47–52

professional person

, 47–52

Christianity

, 87, 93

Christians

, 103–104

Circle of Friends

, 113

Civil partnership

, 32–33

Civil union

, 32–33

Co-existing relationships

, 15–16

Co-parenting arrangement

, 14

Comfort care

, 71–72

Commemorative medals (from cremated remains)

, 124

Competency

, 50

Contemporary funerals

, 111

Continuous deep sedation

, 89

Country Network, The

, 4

Couple relationship

, 15, 18, 25

gay couple relationships

, 16–18

Covid-19

, 1, 5

global pandemic

, 46

outbreak

, 46

Cremation

, 122

Death

, 77–78

with dignity

, 77–78

gay familiarity with

, 67–68

Dignitas (organization)

, 88–89

Dignity

, 75–78

Dirty death

, 84–85, 129

Disposing of body

, 120–124

burial

, 120–122

cremation

, 122

medical science, tip or bone crusher

, 123–124

Domestic violence

, 15–16

Double-effect sedation

, 90

Durable power of attorney

, 79–80

Dying

, 77–78

with dignity

, 88

End-of-life decisions

, 91–92

Enduring power of attorney (EPA)

, 79–80

Estrangement

, 21–24

Euthanasia

, 69, 71, 87–88, 90, 93

participants’ views on euthanasia

, 94–102

Executor, choice of

, 47–52

Extended families

, 12, 21

Extended-family-life

, 19–20

Family

, 12, 15, 64–65

of choice

, 13–15

estrangement

, 22

role of

, 127–128

settings of gay men

, 13–15

tradition

, 113–114

Fee-based assisted dying

, 88–89

Friends

, 51–52, 65–66, 83

Funeral directors

, 111

Funeral plans

, 110–124

disposing of body

, 120–124

non-religious services

, 115–120

religious services

, 112–115

Gay couple relationships

, 16–18

Gay familiarity with death

, 67–68

Gay men

, 40, 111–112

end-of-life experiences

, 1–2

household or family settings of

, 13–15

methodology and sample

, 3–6

Gay rights organizations

, 55

Gay social support services

, 54–55

Godchildren

, 57

Good death

, 84–85, 94

gay men’s understanding of

, 129–130

Grandchildren

, 57

Green burials

, 121

Health care

, 79–80

Health Care and Care Facility Act (1996)

, 62

Health Quality & Safety Commission

, 62–63

Health sector

, 66

Hinduism

, 87, 93

HIV

, 67–68, 127

HIV-AIDS epidemic

, 40–41, 64, 67–68, 83–84

Homophobia

, 22

Hospice UK

, 62–63

Household

, 12–15

settings of gay men

, 13–15

Individualization

, 12–13, 16

Inheritance system

, 39

Islam

, 87, 93

Judeo-Christian tradition

, 90

Legalized euthanasia

, 94

LGBT

, 127–128

Marriage equality

, 17

Medical aid in dying

, 94

Medical assistance in dying

, 94

Medical science, tip or bone crusher

, 123–124

Medical technology

, 92

Medically assisted suicide

, 92

Mulga Bill’s Bicycle Band

, 116

National AIDS Memorial Grove

, 113

National Council of Palliative Care

, 62–63

Nazi euthanasia programme

, 91

Nephews

, 54

Nieces

, 54

Non-religious funerals

, 111

service

, 119

Non-religious services (see also Religious services)

, 115–120

sketchy plans

, 117–120

well-developed plans

, 116–117

Nuclear family

, 12–13, 20

Oprah Winfrey television programme

, 124

Orchestra of the Age of Enlightenment, The

, 55

Ostracism

, 22–23

Pain relief

, 71–72

Palliative care

, 96

Parents, family tradition

, 113–114

Parsimonious direct sedation

, 90

Participants afterlife beliefs

, 102–105

belief in afterlife

, 104

no belief in afterlife

, 103

Participants current family

, 24–28

couple relationship

, 25

family of choice

, 25–28

family of origin

, 24

Participants family of origin

, 19–21

blended family

, 20–21

extended family

, 21

nuclear family

, 20

Participants relationship history and status

, 28–34

Common Law, de facto

, 29–31

gay married

, 31–32

single

, 30–31

Participants views on euthanasia

, 94–102

arguments

, 95–98

avoid unnecessary suffering

, 95–97

choice and rights

, 97–98

equivocal or opposed

, 101–102

previous experience and concerns

, 98–101

Peaceful euthanasia

, 102

Personal care

, 79–80

Physical and mental end of life

, 61–62

advance care

, 62–79

comfort care and pain relief

, 71–72

do not resuscitate

, 71

end-of-life awareness

, 64–68

euthanasia

, 69–71

instructional directive

, 69–74

power of attorney

, 79–84

values directive

, 74–79

Physical disability

, 77

Physician-assisted dying

, 89

Pinnacle Foundation in Australia

, 55

PLWHA support services

, 55

Polyamory

, 15–16, 30

Power of attorney

, 2–3, 62, 79, 84

age and authority

, 82–83

knowledge and trust

, 81–82

Pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP)

, 67–68

Professional person

, 50

Property EPA

, 79–80

Property ownership arrangements

, 44

Pseudonyms

, 5–6

Quality of life

, 78

Rational suicide

, 90–91

Religious services (see also Non-religious services)

, 112–115

parents, family tradition

, 113–114

partner

, 114–115

Religious traditions

, 93

Rotary International

, 111

Same-sex marriage

, 17

Secular liturgies

, 111

Sedation

, 90

to unconsciousness and death

, 90

Sentience

, 75, 78–79

Serial monogamy

, 15–16

Solitaries

, 12

Speculative judgement

, 74

Terminal anaesthesia

, 88–89

Traditional qualitative research techniques

, 4

Transfer of property

, 39–40

Two-stage funeral procession

, 110

Values directive

, 74–79

altruism

, 75–76

dignity

, 76–78

sentience

, 78–79

Vegetative state

, 69–70, 75–77, 129

Welfare EPA

, 79–80

Wills and beneficiary decisions

, 39

beneficiaries

, 52–57

changed material circumstances

, 44–45

changed relationship status

, 42–44

choice of executor

, 47–52

family member

, 48–49

friend

, 51–52

partner

, 53

professional person

, 50

will revision

, 42–47

Withdrawal of treatment

, 88

Zoom online conference platform

, 5